Personal Understanding From '7 Habits of Highly Effective People'
Zeqiang Fang / 2022-06-04
Categories: reviews / Tags: books, notes, habits / Word Count: 515
After reading 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey), I construct a personal insight to understand this book. Combining other insights from Gloria Gao, I rewrote the notes.
“Inside-out appoarch”
Working on our inside part of ourselves
Overview of Habits
1-3 Private Victories Self-mastery, the essence of our character growth
4-6 Public Victories Cooperation and communication with others
7 A continuous improvement that embodies all of the previous 6 habits
Habit 1 Be Proactive
We need to take accountability of our own actions.
Problem Recognisation
Direct control ourself’s behaviour
Indiect control other people behaviour
No control do nothing about like our past Focus on the problem with our circle of influence!
Work on our weakness! -> Liberating!
Habit 2 Begin with the End in Mind
“A personal mission statement focuses on what you want to be (character), and to do, (contributions and achievements), and on the values or principles upon which being and doing are based.” — Stephen Covey
Personal Mission Statement: - character - contributions and achievements - principles
Changeless principles within us help to handle with constantly changing world! Stay true who we are
“Principle-centered”
Write down “Role of our life”
Take me for example
| Roles | Goals |
|---|---|
| Student | Study hard |
| Intern | Work life balance |
| Friend | Expand circle and maintance the relationship |
| Spouse | keep understand and improve our own experience |
| Individual | Shape a growing mind |
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Time Management Martix
| Urgent | Not Urgent | |
|---|---|---|
| Important | Quadrant 1: Crises,Deadline | Quadrant 2: Long term planning |
| Not important | Quadrant 3 | Quadrant 4 |
In tradtional way, Quadrant 1 & 3(Urgent) are the most frequently taught to us!
Important but not urgent part, I need to work seriously these years (such as job skills)
Methodology:
- Long-term Organising
- Mission Statement -> Roles -> Goals
- Weekly Organising
- Roles -> Goals -> Plans (Schedule & Delegate)
- Daily Plan might not be flexible!
Habit 4: Think win-win
Six Paradigms of Human Interactions
- Win/Win
- Win/Lose
- Lose/Win
- Lose/Lose
- Win
- Win/Win or No Deal
Our Character
- Integrity 正直
- Maturity 成熟
- Abundance Mentality (there is plenty out there and there is enough for everyone)
Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Empathetic Listening:
- Micmic Content
repeat exactly what other people said
- Rephrase
make sure we understand that correctly
Reflect feeling
Rephrase the content + Reflect feeling
Habit 6 Synergize
The key to synergize is to value our differences. It is not beneficial to have people agree with you all the time. You need to have people to give you constructive criticism to help you grow.
Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw; Growth
4 Dimensions
- Physical (Habit 1)
- Spiritual (Habit 2)
- Mental (Habit 3)
- Social/Emontional (Habit 4-6)
Mind of the growth
Reference
7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Stephen Covey